Date : Sunday, January 18, 2009
Time : 8:56:00 pm
Title : Re: Social

Sometimes, I have many things I want, or wanted to blog about.
But I just don't know how to say it out...

When I see a big group of people hanging out like a clique, I thought of a few of them in the group and wondered, how many of the people in the clique are friends that they are close to and can truly rely on? Are those people really happy being in the group? Or do they just seem to fit in, but the fitting-in part is only superficial? Not that I'm specificially highlighting anyone, but seeing so many social drama going on nowadays, I always think of stuff in my mind.

Sometimes, I wonder
who are the people who'd stay in my life when the rest of the world walks out on me?
who are the friends who are really loyal to me?
who are the peers who are not superficial?
who are the people we can truly rely on?
what kind of friends are the friends in my life?
are my peers, '笑里藏刀'? (direct translation: daggers hidden within smiles)
I know that no man (or women) is perfect, even the closest of friends aren't perfect in every single way, but sometimes, the complexities in this realistic world is profound to comprehend.

From enlightenment I've read about, there are 3 types of friends in our lives.
Friends for a reason, friends for a season, friends for a lifetime.

Friends for a reason are friends who get together for a reason e.g business partners, project teammates, interest-group friends, friends who get together because they're in the same lecture, CCA mates..
Friends for a season are friends for only a period of your life. e.g classmates, army buddies
Friends for a lifetime are friends whom even after graduating, starting work, quitting jobs, getting married and settling families, call you out to catch up and gossip about life's happenings.
Theres only a handful of such people whom we adore in the third category.

So which category does yours belong to?

However, they are some friends who are hard to categorise.
Perhaps its because of the fact that as we grow up, we change environment, we meet new people, have a change in our social circle and we move on, we've outgrown our old friends & even the best of friends become old friends.

There are also some friends who belong to a number of categories.
There are other categories which are unknown.

Whatever the case, I know that I'd treasure friendships, esp special ones, even if we moved on to another phase of our lives where things wouldn't be the same as now. (: